A warm, supportive guide to separating and starting anew

After 20 years of marriage and three children, full-time mum Pia Pasternack came home one day to find a note on the doormat and her husband gone… Heartbroken, this was the first of a series of revelations that left her and her family reeling. But gradually Pia built herself back up, and in Making Peace with Divorce, written together with her old school friend Sarah Rayner, Pia passes on the lessons she has learned about the legal, financial and emotional implications of separation.

‘A “must read” for anybody going through the process of divorce. Addresses both practical and legal matters in a very clear and user friendly way and cuts through all the jargon.’ Karen Chapman, Divorce Lawyer

Together Pia and Sarah guide you through the minefield that accompanies the bust-up of many long-term relationships, exploring with warmth and humour sensitive issues such as whether to separate, how to break the news to children (if you have them) and how best to communicate with your ex.

‘I wish this book had been available when I needed it! As a straight male lawyer there is plenty in here to learn from and recognize, but it’s suitable for all types – male, female, gay, straight.’ Nick Kaunoupias

You’ll find clear and concise guidance on finding a lawyer, filling in forms and reaching a settlement. And if a settlement cannot be reached, there’s the low-down to help prepare you for what happens at court. There are quick tips to aid your own recovery, insights from others from all walks of life who have been through separation, and pointers on how to move on. The result is a handy, practical and uplifting guide that will make this distressing time less confusing and overwhelming, supporting you so you can ‘make peace’ with your own divorce or separation, thereby creating a happy and fulfilling future.

  • Useful links throughout, plus details of helplines and recommended reads
  • Fully illustrated by Sarah Rayner
  • Ongoing online support group available

‘I hope this finds its way to all those who are going through the shock of divorce, whether at the beginning, in the middle or trying to make sense of a different life – it is that good.’ Ann Sinclair

‘When working with clients experiencing marital breakdown we acknowledge the thoughts, feelings and practical mess; this book shares it all, in a really safe validating way. Helpful advice, useful suggestions, great resources – a real friend.’ Tracey Sainsbury, Counsellor.

Available: October 2017   Edited by: Sarah Rayner   Published by: Creative Pumpkin Publishing

Pia Pasternack

Sarah Rayner